How do you have security without facts to base your value?

I don't understand the concept of self assuredness, especially when it comes to dating. If you don't have any proof of your value, then how are you supposed to be secure? It's like a job hunt ... I would not put my resume in at CNN just because I worked on the high school newspaper.





It's more difficult to figure out the tangible value you offer to potential partners and where to apply, per se. Any advice?How do you have security without facts to base your value?
Your laboring under a misconception.





Your assuming that self assuredness is something tangible, like the computer monitor sitting in front of you. Sure, you can see it, touch it, therefor, it must be real.





Self assuredness is more like a religion. It exists simply because someone believes in it.





So, is it worth believing in? Look at it this way. You probably know someone who thinks very little of himself. And because he thinks so poorly of himself, he really isn't very fun to be around. Now, look at the guy who has a high self opinion. I'm not talking about the self absorbed one, but the one who knows he has worth but doesn't brag about it.





See the difference?





And as far as dating with it goes, there isn't a single emotionally stable female or male on the planet who is turned on by a guy or girl with low self-esteem. Yeah, self assuredness may be intangible, but your partner damn sure can see it.





So, you tell me, is believing in yourself worth your time to master, ...?How do you have security without facts to base your value?
You should not let others determine your value for you.